Desperate for Marriage: 3 Types of Women to Avoid in Japanese Matchmaking

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In this blog, I’ll share real insights into Japan’s marriage scene and offer practical advice for men. Today’s topic is especially important for anyone seeking a lifelong partner: the three types of women you should avoid when considering marriage. Recognizing these red flags is crucial for ensuring a happy and lasting relationship.
Why You Need to Be Cautious
It's easy for men to fall in love, and when emotions take over, logic can get pushed aside. However, rushing into marriage based solely on feelings can lead to regret when the initial excitement fades. That's why it's essential to be aware of warning signs and avoid women who exhibit the following characteristics.
1. The “Clingy” Woman

The first type to avoid is the “clingy” or needy woman. This refers to someone who heavily relies on her partner for emotional support and validation. While it's natural to lean on each other, excessive dependency can strain a marriage.
For example, during busy work periods, you might need to stay late or work weekends. While you’re focused on your job, a clingy partner may suspect infidelity or complain about feeling neglected. Comments like, "Why are you coming home so late?" or "Do you still love me?" can become frequent.
Some may even inundate you with texts or calls during work, demanding constant attention. Over time, this behavior can hinder your ability to focus and create a stressful home environment.
How to Identify a Clingy Woman:
Watch how she reacts during conflicts. A clingy woman might say things like, "I can’t live without you!" or "If we break up, I’ll die!" This kind of emotional manipulation is a major red flag. Additionally, pay attention to her social media habits; frequent, emotional posts may indicate a need for attention.
2. The Complainer

The second type is the woman who constantly complains. While everyone vents occasionally, it’s the frequency that matters. Marriage should be a partnership through highs and lows, but if your partner continuously brings negativity, it can be draining.
Imagine coming home after a long day at work only to hear, "I had the worst day ever!" every day. If she frequently complains about colleagues, her boss, or life in general, it can affect your own mental well-being and strain the relationship.
Why It’s Harmful:
A relationship should be a source of comfort and support. Constant negativity can make your home life stressful. Even if you want to be there for your partner, hearing complaints day in and day out can lead to frustration and exhaustion.
3. The High-Demand Princess

The third type to avoid is the woman with unrealistic demands. This partner expects her man to meet excessive standards—financially, emotionally, or in everyday actions.
She might say things like, "It’s your job to plan the perfect date," or "You should always pay for dinner." Over time, these expectations can escalate, with her demanding more without offering anything in return.
Even if she’s beautiful or fits your ideal type, consider whether you can realistically meet her demands long-term. Remember, physical beauty fades, but unrealistic expectations persist.
Why It’s a Red Flag:
Women with a "princess" mentality often fail to reciprocate their partner's efforts. This imbalance creates a one-sided marriage where the man is always giving while the woman takes without appreciation.
Conclusion: What Kind of Woman Should You Marry?

Now that you know the types of women to avoid, you may be wondering what kind of partner you should seek. The ideal partner is someone who naturally gives without demanding too much. A woman who doesn’t require constant attention or perfection, and is willing to invest in the relationship, will contribute to a happy, balanced marriage.
When both partners give and receive equally, it builds a strong foundation of love and trust. Take your time in choosing a woman who will enhance your happiness rather than drain your energy.